thanks for reply. I could be proven wrong here, but I don't think there is an OM.
She had a consulting business and most of her clients for a time were tech companies in the Bay Area. It required her to be face to face a couple days a week. They would pay her hotel or condo and she'd be there when needed as long as the contract was in place. She'd call nightly and we kept close in contact. She hasn't had those trips in a couple years. My point was more around the assumption that I'd be the one to move out. She is a great mom. I was more making the point I have made sacrifices for these kids and am an equal caretaker in the relationship.
As far as 'girls weekends'- I don't think I was that clear. Since asking for separation she has begun to plan outings with our daughters without me. Trip to the park or the beach. They are going to my brother in-laws pool party this weekend and I'm not invited (even thought I was invited by him). Obviously this is so new that nobody knows Although we've had troubles it went from fun loving family to full stop. That stuff hurts and doesn't make the future look too bright.
Now could there be an OM. I guess there could, but she is honestly so busy at work and at home I can't see it, but anything could be possible so I'll certainly keep my eyes and ears open.
I am a little perplexed about the 'straw that broke the camels back' incident. I get a little awkward and I do try to 'control' her for lack of a better term in the past. It's more 'don't make a scene' kind of stuff. I really don't think I've done it that much lately and I don't think I really did it at all that day.
Who knows. What I do know is that her stress level outside the relationship has been crazy. She's snapping at me all the time and the girls. I've attributed a lot of our problems lately to that. I could tell that even the therapist was encouraging her to get some 1 on 1 time with someone to deal with us and herself.
