You remind me of me. When I first started here I tried to take every little advice I was given. It seemed to take me nowhere. So what did I do? I didn't post for a while and did things my own way. As it has been revealed to me later every single little advice I got from here were actually working. When I stopped posting and tried doing things my way everything fell apart. I got the same you are getting, "you're wrong about this and that". The truth is: you darn right are. Don't take these personal. They are ment to wake you up not to f... you up. That's what 2x4's are for. LH used to give 2x4's constantly. So did sandi. I started to take them personally. Even when I came back again I made the biggest mistake and took Steve's 2x4's personally.
The bottom line: no one can be forced to listen to advice given by these people. These people have done miracles in their own lives and others too. They do know what they are talking about. It is up to you whether you suck it up and take notes or lift your finger and do things your way. My personal 2x4 for you is to take option 1.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
