That´s why you need to read Cadet´s first post again. She is still driving the car T. Get out of it. Detach. Don´t get into R talks. Listen to Steve.
Remember: actions not words, and marathon not sprint.
You can do it.
Agree Nef. But the more I detach, the more she reads into it as I don't give a .... In a way that's good. But in a way it may not be. Again, she absolutely hated our/her friends for their role in all of this. Like, mad to the point she'd never talk to them again. I know they'd eventually patch things up. But, she had no interest in speaking to them until I started detaching (or at least she perceived me as detaching).
now, that could be a coincidence, or it could be that she thinks since I'm 'done' and moving on, she needs to reconnect with those friends so she has 'someone' to talk to about this. And if her #1 issue with our M is communication, shouldn't I be the one to be there for her (opposed to detaching, GALing, etc)?
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
