Wlf/Ovrr...W over time as consistently stated things like that. perhaps when she's angry as you both say it's to reaffirm her of what she's doing or could also just be her trying to stab me with the most hurtful things she can think of. as I say it just sounds odd that if a person feels a certain way, then why the need to constantly restate the obvious. my IC says it's out of anger which belies some pain/fear within her. only W knows for certain.
Wlf, I can assure you there was none of those 3 conditions from my side, maybe OM from her side, but W now says divorce is best for our D as well so I guess there's no problem for her in destroying the family, she must have other reasons that work for her. I do know I'm a good man, father and husband. for sure I could be better at all of those roles. I pray and speak with God all the time. trusting in him and his plan for me as my W's decision I can't understand...I find myself dealing with many "trials" these days.
ovrr...no, W has not filed. have not physically seen each other for about 3 months now. not one phone call ever. text/email, yes, but maybe once a week. W wants divorce months ago, but seems like wants me doing all the work. ummm...as I say there are LBS on here with confirmed OM/PA, living together, dinner, movies with the kids, etc. my W is just doing all she can to completely disappear.
anyway...as neffer says...just have to keep myself from trying to understand her. it's just seems extreme/irrational given how other sitches here even seemingly worse than mine can at least co-exist/see/talk to each other.
