LoneWlf, I respect everything you say in your last message. I believe that's the right approach. Those are the same reasons why I've stay committed to my husband and wish to reconcile with him under the right circumstances. If your wife gets a chance to do those things you state above she has to take it seriously and you can't back down. If you back down she'll see that she can have it both ways and she could stray again. As I wrote in my post I think the hardline approach works much better with wayward and walkway spouses although this is based on my own experience and mistakes.
I'm a religious person but I'm not a straight Christian anymore and I'm not into new age beliefs either - it's too much of an off topic to write more about religion on your thread except to say it's 100% right to choose your faith over your wife because when you die someday you'll be judged (according to what Christians believe) on your own actions and your own faith, not on your wife's actions. You're accountable for yourself so choosing your faith not only is right for you but it sets a strong example for your son and everyone else as well. I commend you for that.
