OK here goes first post... pt 3

[bhappy2]

Had a great day out with the kids and by coincidence kids and I met a close friend of W whose kid is friends with ours and who now spends a lot more time with W. She said she was amazed at how much more positive sounding I am and said I'm looking far better too.

Really? This is how the convo went? You are discussing your sitch with your W's close friend. Big mistake. She said you are looking far better? These are going to be hard times for you David, stop what you are doing and focus on you and the kids only.

She mentioned how she thought I must have been feeling before the split (tired, trapped, no social life etc.) and that she often feels that way. Only W could have given her that impression. She said W had said nothing to her about us (which I doubt) but to give it time and not to have a tug of war over the kids.

You said W didnt tell this friend anything but then you say W must have given her this impression. David STOP talking about your sitch with everyone, you are not getting it! This is about saving you, should your W want to come back then that would be a bonus. You have a tremendous amount of work to do.

More importantly, the kids are very happy to be home.

This is what you should be focusing on...