WW having affair and pushing for divorce

[Ready2Change]

I often see people in your position give things up in a separation, ranging from kids, money, to the house, to try to somehow placate their wayward spouse in the hopes that this will avoid making them mad or make them want to come back. This never, ever works and is in fact the worst thing you can do for any outcome.....


... and get right of first refusal.

Everything Fade said was spot on.

Do not be a puppy dog and roll over.

I have 50/50 because I fought for it. Best thing I have done. My kids need me in there lives. They need their mother in their lives.

Everything else can be replaced. Your relationship with your kids and guidance you give can not.


I have a bigger house now. I have more sex now. I have a loving woman in my life. I can go on and on, but I know my kids better than my ex wife does. She wanted me to be a weekend dad. I could have agreed. That is not in the best interest of my kids.



"What is best for my kids is best for me"

Do not agree to anything less than 50/50. I had the mindset that i WOULD NOT AGREE TO ANYTHING unless it included 50/50 parenting or ordered by a judge.

"First right of refusal" is the next best thing. Anytime Mother wants to do anything without the children, You get them. Keep records and then appeal the courts with proof that you are parenting more.