Doesn't change anything. Its just reassuring to know she doesn't posses all the power in this dynamic Ginger. Its bolstering to know she isnt omnipotent.

I don't. You are right.
Cognitive dissonance is still a thing though Ginger.

How extensivly have you researched CPTD, Trauma bonding, Cognitive Dissonance and Gaslighting??
This is not playground psychology here.
She is an emotional predator, and the wounds she left are profound, deep, and will take a lonngggg time to truly scar over.

Unfortuneatley Ginger, she is the mother of my son and i will have to deal with her for at least the next 15 years.

M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4
All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18
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2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD
2 Major breakups.
2 Rebounds