Is It Too Late?

[WillD78]

Thanks, as always, Steve. Your perspective is priceless and invigorating.

Yes, W is making purchases. At the very least, I know she has purchased two end tables and had other items from Wayfair delivered to her new place. And with her nearly daily trips to home decor stores, I'm suspect there are other items, too.

I had a bit of a moment of weakness last night, and it involves the above-mentioned end tables. W found them for sale on Craigslist over the weekend for $20. They're vintage 1950s tables. When she returned home with them she told me that she spoke to some antique expert and he told he could sell them in his shop for $300. I asked her if she was going to sell them. She said no. And that was that.

Fast forward to last night and she showed me this picture on her Facebook feed of these two end tables that are for sale at another vintage store. "These are just like the ones I bought," she tells me. "Look at how good they look with you clean them up."

I didn't know what to say. What kind of a person does this -- rubs it in my face that she is leaving by showing me the awesome stuff she is buying for her new life?

After a moment I said, "What makes you think I want to hear about the furniture you are buying for your new place?"

W: I'm sorry. You're right. That's not fair.

Me: No, it's not that it's not fair. I just seriously want to know why you think I would want to hear about that."

W: I'm sorry. You're right.

Me (and here's where it goes downhill): I mean, I like talking with you about that stuff. I miss those conversations. I miss talking with you about those things.

(Pause)

Me: I miss you.

W: I know.

Me: I hope you will miss me someday, too.

And ... scene!

I know, not my best work. However, I think I managed to show very little, if any, emotion and honestly, I wasn't feeling too much, either. W also showed no emotion and wouldn't even look at me after my initial question.

My family arrived shortly after that and we had a nice pretend family dinner with them. W was pretty short with me and the Ds later that night after the family left, but otherwise it was a "normal" evening.