wonderful to have D back with me...having lots of fun together every day. a GF familiar with my sitch commented recently to me "why are you still wearing that meaningless ring?" I know she meant well and I get why she would say that, but it is not meaningless to me regardless of the status of my stitch. she said I'll give you until Oct to be unhappy, but then I'm going to start setting you up...can't say I'm interested in dating/being set up, but her "intent" is appreciated.
had a buddy come to me recently, close friend again familiar with my sitch...could tell he wanted to talk. turns out been married 20+ but is now 1 month into an A. std feelings, bored with day to day...enjoying the excitement and being wanted. said to me that what he's doing is tearing him apart. so he's speaking with me as an LBS about what he should do. meh...obviously it's up to him, thing is he seems to realize what he's doing is wrong AND seems to be wanting to stop it. it's weird to me how since my W left I've had 2 folks close to me admit to A's and come to me for advice. in each of those they say thank you and seem to be moving back towards their spouses. i'm happy to talk with them, don't judge them, pray for them. thing is I wonder if there is any of that going in my sitch. does W get any friendly advice like I provide to others? who knows...it's a selfish thing I know but hard to be helping others who seem like they want to R and then in my own...just nothing.
one question...I know really nothing about narcissism. wondering if my W would be considered one, given her complete physical avoidance of me for months now, only text/email, anger/spew and not the remotest of apologies/concern for me or what happened. also what continues to interest me is her constant need to continually state to me that D'ing is absolutely the right thing for us to do. like if you know it, why the need to repeatedly say it. meh I need more GAL to keep pushing me forward and away from my thoughts of her.
