It won't break me but I feel like this is another step of me pulling things separate from her. I am doing her a favor that is also helping me. If I continue to pay the full bill I feel like I am giving in. Just confused at this point and this is the last bill that she has tried to push on me.
Last edited by lost8; 08/22/1807:07 PM.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Will do, i avoided the conversation yesterday about it. I know this is only my true first week of NC and detachment but man it's hard. I did pockets of it before and she showed interest and I was quickly dragged back in. I'm pretty sure these next two weekends she will be away with OM and that makes it difficult for her to feel the detachment but I am planning to use the time working on me and being with my son. Wish me luck.
I have not been in the room when my W has come home the last two nights but my oldest has said that she is really stressing and is difficult to even speak to. i know she is working on not drinking and hopefully the sobriety has her mind thinking about what she has truly been doing. I know I am impatient but I keep telling myself it's a marathon.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
I like that you acknowledge your impatience. It shows a rare ability (rare to a lot of the LBSs here) to do self reflection and see how it can trip you up.
So work on your patience. Drive the speed limit. Do not get angry at other drivers. Become overly polite in grocery stores. Slow down, smell the roses.
I struggle with impatience too. Actively working on it is the best way to improve.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Then I get a thought from my attorney that I can file for Limited Divorce. Any thoughts? There is still a 12 month wait period in MD and plenty of time to reconsider. Should I use this to shake her up? I know it has only been 3+ months but this [censored].
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Then I get a thought from my attorney that I can file for Limited Divorce. Any thoughts? There is still a 12 month wait period in MD and plenty of time to reconsider. Should I use this to shake her up? I know it has only been 3+ months but this [censored].
No. Do NOTHING to manipulate her. If you want to get D'd then file. If not, don't. WHen you start doing things to "shake her up" then it will backfire on you.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Agree with Steve. You file only if you are convinced you want to. Remember actions weight more than words. You lose power if you back out from a decision. You´ll end up shaken...
roger that but still getting legal consultation, too much damage done this go round and second A as well. I'm not even convinced that I want her back and pain might be that I know it's over. Didn't think I had an option after I blew adultery charge but did file papers just never served. I doubt that a full reconcile would ever happen because of everything she would need to do to get us back in trusting each other.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
