So you had an EA, did you sleep with someone else? Or just emotional? I'm not sure if EA most "emotional" or "extramarital".
After this, you got married and had kids? And now she can't forgive you for it? Did she not forgive you before?
She could still resent you for it I suppose.
When she brings up divorce proceedings don't argue with her or beg her not to, that will just push her towards divorce.
Her affair is wrong, just as it was wrong when you did it. Don't validate her on this, tell the truth but don't get dragged into the same fight over and over. She knows it's wrong and maybe she feels justified because of what you did, but it's not justified. At some point someone has to decide to do the right thing. It's your time to do the right thing and lead by example.
Those words you asked about are very important, keep them in mind. "Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do". It means exactly what it says.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
So you had an EA, did you sleep with someone else? Or just emotional? I'm not sure if EA most "emotional" or "extramarital".
After this, you got married and had kids? And now she can't forgive you for it? Did she not forgive you before?
She could still resent you for it I suppose.
When she brings up divorce proceedings don't argue with her or beg her not to, that will just push her towards divorce.
Her affair is wrong, just as it was wrong when you did it. Don't validate her on this, tell the truth but don't get dragged into the same fight over and over. She knows it's wrong and maybe she feels justified because of what you did, but it's not justified. At some point someone has to decide to do the right thing. It's your time to do the right thing and lead by example.
Those words you asked about are very important, keep them in mind. "Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do". It means exactly what it says.
I had an emotional affair and yes we got married after but already had both our kids
Thank you for the reply. I will be sure to state that to her when the time comes.
Today has been hard thus far, W, I and s6 d3 are going to go out and do some things around town. Trying to stay strong and hold my head high and keep away from pursuer comments. Is very hard when I want so bad to express my pain and anger at the situation and bottle it up instead.
Is very hard when I want so bad to express my pain and anger at the situation and bottle it up instead.
It is impossible. Unless you stay busy. This is why GAL is so important!
I understand that wife goes to work today at 3 pm and my attention will be centered around the kids and focusing on things to take my mind of the situation. Kids love Lego's so I figure I will devote a few hours to us building something the three of us...thanks for the reply.
It is extremely hard....exercising has been my go to and it kills a good 30-45 minutes and makes me feel good about myself. I am looking and feeling better at 49 than I did at 30. Three months of stress dieting (at first) and working out has definitely been good.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
Kids and I played for a few hours with Lego's built misc. Things son and I a robot my daughter kinda threw everything around today. Lol. Wife gets here shortly trying to stay positive we plan to watch a movie together will not talk unless spoken to.
