Wife wont admit to affair, its driving me nuts! 2

[Morbo]

Its been a long time. Reading articles here occasionally and educating myself.

Been a hard few months, lonely, but doing well with work , going to the gym 5 days a week and
my girls are doing great.
I brought them for a trip to Ireland in june/july, saw a lot of family,and we had an amazing time.

Sooo...the bad stuff. W started drinking heavily and found out from my daughters she was drinking in the mornings
before they went to school. Couple of other things like driving erratically and scaring them with her road rage
and I manged to shame her and make her admit she had a problem and to stop and do something about it.
For once she agreed with me and seemed to clean up her act, got rid of the booze and seems more together., LOL
Also, she crashed her car a few weeks back. Over speedbumps at 10 MPH into the back of a 17 year old who was just being careful. Found out from eldest D she was in a foul mood and when she's angry, get off the highway!!

So, very little contact besides drop offs for the girls , their finances etc

Anyway, I was vaguely hanging on to the marriage especially in the last few weeks as we were getting friendlier
but was mainly doing my own thing. Bit more affectionate and funny with each other. She even said that
we might go out sometime.

ANYWAY, so had an interesting Facebook friend request this past weekend.
It was from OM's ex girlfriend of 12 years. I accepted but when I went home she had deleted the request.
I messaged her introducing myself and asked why she had wanted to friend me when she didnt know me.
Eventually I gave her my number and we had a long conversation the next day.
So found out W and OM did go to Mexico in july 17 as I suspected.
They also went when I was in Ireland with the girls, july 18.
When ex GF and OM were together my W called every night and really upset GF. OM didnt care..
The usual,"We're just friends" BS. Lots of other sordid crap too.
Also, OM admitted to GF the past few months that we were together.
I knew all this anyway but validation is good.

Ex GF is kinda scared of OM as he's a real piece of work(puts her down, makes her feel stupid, kinda like my W,).
GF Wants me to say nothing and especially to W. I say nothing because I'm pretty calm these days and its good to know stuff that she doesnt. I like having this ammunition and revenge is a dish best served cold.

Anyway, so its finally done. I've finally let go of it, for real. Dumped all our wedding pics today, all the other physical
things I had held on to for so long. It didnt affect me at all because I know she is totally not worth it.
There is not a chance I can ever get back with her. Its closure for me and its only me and the girls now
and being a great dad.

Funny thing is, she is still miserable, sad, angry and is drinking again. She HATES that I'm doing well, look great, is jealous as hell of all my friends some of who are attractive females. It drives her crazy.
ALL while she is doing what she's doing with OM.
She is a complete narcissist. I even see it in her FB posts. Its always " Why super intelligent people are depressed"
or some other crap, haha
I'm just sitting back and wondering whats going to happen next. detached and free of her (as much as I can be)

It feels good. :-)