No, that's how I feel too - I can't take on his problem. I have given him advice and gotten advice from Mr. Big Lots about how his daughter solved her problem. I do think he feels overwhelmed by it and I discussed with him how to eat an elephant. I also gave him some ideas about documentation that might be helpful - his parents death certificates, the probate of their will, his high school yearbook entry.
I think he was also always afraid he'd get in some kind of legal trouble, although any legal issue should really fall on the recruiter who gave a 16 year old boy a false social security number!!!!
He's a grown man and should be able to take care of business. I can support and encourage him but I've got too much on my own plate to do any more.
He sees the specialist tomorrow, I've given him questions to ask about the differential diagnosis but I am worried about the possible outcome. His father died of lung cancer.
