Incoming III (The DB Journey gains steam?)

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You have valuable information, ovrrnbw. I appreciate it.

Each sitch is unique, but follows the same journey. I don't know what's going on in her head and I've spend many a week trying to figure it out. But after trying and trying to influence her, plead with her, etc. I formally surrendered. Since my surrender, I have not brought up anything regarding our situation, R efforts, OM, none of it. I want to make it one month in which I can just be. I have also seen that her ACTIONS are saying more than mere words will ever say. I'm hoping they continue. I like where this is going, but as Steve85 has said time and time again..."Marathon, not sprint"

My heart yearns for her, but she isn't seeing much of that anymore. Only myself, my parents, and you folks know my true feelings and desires. I haven't given up hope because I'm seeing the signs of it dotted everywhere. But I'm learning to take it one minute at a time.

Your heart yearns for a person that is openly cheating on you?!? And treating you like a fool! wtf??

You need to cut bait and go live YOUR best life! As soon as you do and you are no longer "yearning" for a cheater then she will see that she game is up and panic! That is when she will start pursuing you! That is when you get to decide whether you can live the rest of your life with a cheater or want something better. I decided to tell my waw to kick rocks. You may decide differently.

DBing isn't about tricks or smoke and mirrors its about becoming someone that the leaver would give anything to get back in their lives. You have to stop doing stuff to try and win the cheater back and start doing stuff for YOU!