Not sure DB is working? AnotherStander help!

[Jlh]

Me again, lol! So I'm doing better after you guys knocked me back into shape regarding detachment. I keep things friendly and accept his help when he offers with some things. We've been working together and actually talking to take care of our relic of a hot water heater which is about to die soon. He said he'd take care of it money-wise and I offered to call around for estimates and whatnot since he can't exactly do it during the day with his job. I used to be so scared to talk to strangers on the phone for business reasons but now I can do it! I shocked myself at how I've grown up and used the phone like a "big girl" regarding many issues.

But anyway, I didn't brag about that to him or anything, but he has thanked me numerous times and told me that he appreciated my calling around for him and that it helped him greatly.

Today he picked up my son and informed me about his eye insurance we're on and told me to go get myself some nice glasses and explained how the eye insurance covers a lot. I don't know where that came from since when it comes to my health, he's been casual, almost avoiding things like asking how I'm doing. I nicely thanked him for the info and then told him that I was going to be late for my outing so I had to get going after they left.

I have the confused "Shrek sneer" (if you know the movie and the character) when it comes to him lately. He still hasn't come for the rest of his things even though a few weeks ago in an argument I told him to just end the torture and come get them, he's laughing a bit more and even puts "lol" into texts which he is also doing more of. Its nothing huge and I don't chase him around, I still keep things casual and polite. I just am kind of surprised at how he's acting a little less foggy. He's still acting skittish but less cold and distant.

I don't know what the stages are to all of this midlife strange behavior but hopefully he's coming toward the light at the end of the tunnel? Until then, I'm working and taking care of me and my boy and looking into churches and some social programs for us both. (thumbs up)