Will, thanks for the update. Reminds me a lot of my W. Did she actually order the items or did she just look at them online. You made it sound like she ordered them.
But yes WASs try to avoid the pain of their decision, but it will eventually come crashing down on her. Maybe she will never really pull the trigger due to not wanting to face the music. I think that was a lot of the reason my W finally came around. She saw the path of least resistance was to stay rather than go. Even signing a lease is easier than the actual moving and telling people she has moved. So don't be surprised if she breaks the lease and stays. Then again, don't be surprised if she furnishes it and moves in. Anything is possible.
Keep the focus on you. Even what you found snooping, in comparison, isn't all that bad. Think about it. the posters that are snooping and finding out about EAs and PAs. When I snooped back in January and found nude photos she had sent to OM, I would have traded that for her furniture shopping for a new apartment in a heart beat!! Now I know that doesn't make you feel any better, but the point is that it could always be worse. Think of all of these things as steps in the process. Even if she follows through, how you handle it will be huge in your sitch's future.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
