It is interesting how we see our spouses in a different light during these stages. Immediately after discovering EA years ago and during MC I would notice that my W looked better than ever. Her skin was smoother and she seemed to glow. Of course, she was exercising more in anticipation of a rendezvous. Not so much this go-round. W has a pooch and I can tell she isn't drinking enough water. The reason I point this out is that I believe some may be actual and some of our own personal filter. Obviously, people that are tormented by personal struggles can display physical signs of stress. Last time I lost several lbs in the trauma drama diet. Not so much this time. At 6', I'm 210 and want to lose 15lbs. I have never been over a 38 waist but would prefer 34.
Anyway, good for you.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
