WAW pt2

[jaylove]

Steve - it’s been psychological abuse rather than physical - repeatedly coming home in the early hours drunk and being unable to open the door with a key, so she had to ring the doorbell, then coming up the stairs swearing at me when the kids have been awoken by the doorbell and able to hear what she has been saying to me, , then W not being in a good state in the morning when making the kid’s breakfast and taking them to school. That has had an effect on the kids for sure.
The kids have expressed concern that their mum is often drunk and worry about her ability to look after them going forwards when she has them in her house.
Overall I truly believe that our kids need to have both their mum and dad in their lives, but hopefully now that officials are involved there will be some safeguards or checks put in place to make sure they are safe when they are at their mum’s house.
I have been seeing a cognitive analytical therapist under the supervision of a psychiatrist for six months, which tbh I don’t find that helpful, it’s good to talk and be listened to, but having lost my first wife (she was electrocuted ) and had cancer three times subsequently, there’s a lot to unravel and I sometimes think it’s untealsitic for me to have expectations of being “happy”
When I went to the doctor I didn’t try and convince her about anything, I just told her about what had actually happened at home over the last few years - and it was all the honest truth