WAW pt2

[SteveLW]

Update and Journaling

So I went to see our family doctor to find out about what counselling would be available for our kids. I was with the Dr for an hour and went over some of the examples of abusive behaviour from W over the past few years.
The Dr said she thought it amounted to “clear case of child abuse” and has made a report to the local
Child welfare people, who today visited my W in her New rented house. Apparently they had misunderstood certain things I’d said to the doctor, which further infuriated my W.
Looks like this is going full ahead for Divorce.
I’ve stupidly contacted mutual friends in the last few weeks trying to get their opinion on why W has turned on me and blamed me for her many problems but of course this has back fired and W has found out and is my determined
Than ever to this divorce.
Some days are better than others for me, i am still exercising every day but not really losing as much weight as I was a few weeks ago

This is why I caution LBS about claiming abuse of their children when there is no clear abuse. Drs, CPS, all of them will always error on the side of caution. To limit their own liability. And remember, you aren't exactly unbiased when it comes to this. Especially when the LBS is hurt and angry. They can make things seem worse than they are to get back at the WAS. Or for other motivation (to try to get custody).

So let me ask you, and please answer honestly.....has your wife physically abused your kids? Do you believe it to the point where you would want criminal charges filed?

And yes, telling people close to you is always dangerous and almost always backfires.

So what are you going to do to help yourself? You mention your shattered self-esteem. Get back into IC and rebuild it!

So last time we spoke I offered this advice. Instead you went to your Dr. and convinced him that the kids were being abused by your W. How did that work for you?You really need to get into an IC and work on you.