But she cheated right? And she was the one who wanted out right? And she is still seeing the OM right? In my mind, that means she should get out.
It seems like what you're doing is kinda working though, right? I'm not sure what to think about this, but others may weigh in as well.
She did cheat. She admitted as much when this thing got started. AFAIK, she is still seeing OM. To what extent, I don't know. I don't have proof of PA. And when I snooped in phone records in June, there were a lot of calls made to OM. So I know there was/is some EA going on, despite her saying "it's casual".
She never made it clear that she wanted out. She did make it obvious that she wanted to "date" and wanted me to do the same thing (I did for a period of two weeks...and I stopped it because I felt disgusted with myself).
That being said, I'm working hard on being a man that a fool would leave. She's sensing that. And she knows that I'm making changes for bettering myself. And she has always known that I deserve a second chance at love again. So the clock is still ticking.
Would love feedback from others on my sitch. You've been very helpful ovrrnbw. It feels good to know that the changes I'm making are healthy ones.
