I found out yesterday that our mutual 'friends' that have been involved with this since the beginning, haven't been 100% honest with me about things. W is mad at them for exposing her and distorting some facts. When all this EA stuff came out (friends told me), I obviously believed them. And to be honest, they were mostly correct. But, I do realize now that they did kind of inflate the 'truth', place all the blame on W, in order to protect the OM (and themselves).
I know that maybe doesn't make sense, but the OM is a friend and employee of our mutual friends.
W had mentioned, and i know she's sad that everyone has turned their backs on her. The only relationship comment I made yesterday was this: "just wanted to say that whatever happens for us, we're not enemies, and ultimately I'm on your side as far as friends/family go. They don't matter to me at all at this point".
That was probably lame, and since she lied, (somewhat) cheated, and wants to 'fire' me as her H, it was dumb to say. But I also think she needs to know that whatever happens (reconcile or divorce), we'll always be a 'team' as far as our son.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
