I like CMM and so far most things with him are grand. The problem is this: He has a major issue that he needs to deal with. Something he has stuck his head in the sand, ostrich like, in the past that is now coming back to bite him in the butt.
And it feels like a problem for me. I took on so much of crazy ex-boyfriend's stress. I NEED CMM to handle his problem. I know it makes me sound like a bad partner - I'm not, really my problem is I can't not help and it adds to MY stress because I absorb the stress of someone else's problem.
Maybe someone here will have some practical advice for him about his problem. (The sooner he fixes it the better I'll feel).The story is this: Born in the 1950's outside the hospital (rapid delivery). No birth certificate was ever made. A military recruiter who became his "buddy" helped him enlist at 16 (he graduated high school early) by using a fake birthdate and assigning him some other person's Social Security number.
With his military ID and this social security number he was able to get driver's license ID and he has just used this false birthdate and social security his whole life. Has always paid taxes under this social security number. At some point the IRS contacted him because they had two people paying taxes under the same number and they somehow separated the accounts but he never went to social security to clear it up and get a new social security number. Now some problems are cropping up and besides, he certainly needs to get it cleared up before he's old enough to collect social security in a few years. And, god forbid, if his lung problem turns out to be lung cancer he might need to draw benefits eventually.
I do have a friend whose daughter had a similar problem - born in the ambulance, neither hospital or ambulance registered the birth, young dumb parents didn't do anything about it. She entered adulthood without a social security number or drivers license and it took years for her to clear it up. I asked him and he said our states office of "Vital Statistics" was where she started. But since CMM was born in another state, I'm guessing he would have to start there?
Aside from his military ID, he doesn't have much of a paper trail in his youth. His parents died when he was 20 and there was probate court so those records should contain reference to him being their son. No baptismal records. The schools he attended don't exist anymore, but I imagine he could get yearbook evidence of high school attendance from Yearbook dot com or some such. Only living relatives besides his kids are a cousin he has lost touch with and doesn't have contact information for. In the past I don't imagine it would have been such a problem but with all the anti-immigrant stuff in place today (he's not an immigrant btw) I think they'll scrutinize things much more thoroughly.
Anybody here who has ever dealt with such a problem before or has worked at Social Security who could offer any advice?
