Well, I met with an attorney and she not only told me that yes, I can move back in with no legal ramifications, she actually advised that indeed I should do so.
I only left in the first place because I was trying to appease her and her expressed desire for "time and space" and the hope that it would help us towards R. It was also before I found this forum and DR. She has remained consistent that she isn't going to change her mind. So, I want to go back and be there for my kids as much as possible while I still can. I will continue to DB and be the best me I can be and the best dad I can be. Hopefully, she'll notice and think about things, but I can't be worrying about that.
I wanted to wait until I got a job to move back in, but now I'm not sure if I should wait or do it sooner than later.
Followed by:
Originally Posted by Steve85
Move back in now. That's my vote.
And finally:
Originally Posted by lusa
My vote too Hong.
Our sitches are very similar with us both moving out in January to appease her request for time and space. Then no change with W consistently saying it's over for all this time. I think I realised that well, if it's going to be over then I have nothing to lose by moving back home and spending what time I have left with my kids there. I sort of stopped caring about what she was saying and started making decisions for my own benefit.
Despite what I replied to you on my thread earlier, it has given her plenty of time to see my changes, that they are permanent and haven't been made to win her back. 2 weeks in and she has finally started to relax more with the situation. I had great advice from Sandi about not fighting for the MBR and choosing what hill to die on.
You could always downplay it, state that it's temporary and then not leave. That's pretty much what I have done, officially it's temporary, but I have no plans to leave again. Luckily I didn't have to bring up the legality of it, I think that would have got her back up. You know what sort of reaction to expect because you have already advised me well.
I hope whatever you choose to do, works out for you bro.
M: 40 W: 37 T: 20 MR: 13 S13, S9, S4 BD: 1/29/18 Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out) 8/24/18 I come home, she moves out
If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.
