It has stopped in the last month so no need to fight the urge anymore.The last time she assaulted me was unfortunately in front of D ...which tore me up and the D. I usually sit there ,dont react and try to get out of her way.
Our society is seeing more & more H's being physically abused in their MR's. Like most boys, you were probably taught that hitting a girl was wrong. It's wrong, no matter who does the swinging. Any type of domestic violence is damaging, especially to children. May I ask how long this type of treatment has lasted, and why she though she could assault you without any retaliation? Have you ever called the police during one of these occasions?
Have you considered speaking with a lawyer, just to know your options.....especially where you daughter is concerned?
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I try not to ask about the A but i think i deserve answers and the truth above all but she has only admitted to what i saw and even then says im making stuff up.Im a details man so i guess i want to find out who were when and how,i cannot switch my brain off to that.
Of course you deserve to know the truth and have the answers to your questions! Don't treat her like she's some queen and you're a lowly servant who just gets whatever she decides. Life is short and you should be treated with love and respect by the woman you married. She is setting such a terrible example before her little girl.
I'm so sorry for the pain you experienced growing up, as well as now. I encourage you to seek counseling during this trying time. I hope you'll stick around, b/c there are some really good people on the board. You might search for a poster named Vanilla. She got out of an abusive MR, and she's a sharp cookie about this stuff.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
