What do WW's get out of it, does it fuel their justification? Does it make them feel better about themselves? Do they really want to talk rationally about it(obviously not, and i wont go there either anymore)? Why do they want to bring up those questions when they dont want R anymore? I need Sandi here for that one!
Yes they use it to justify their actions. Soothe their guilt. "See! It was your fault!" And part of the reason they bring it up because no matter how much they insist that they are sure about not wanting to R, I don't think they are ever sure.
I read another anti-divorce expert that told the story of a woman that went so far as to accuse her LBH of sexual abusing their D! It was a false accusation. At the final D hearing she told him "I know we will end up back together someday." HUH? She cheated on her H, tried to get him thrown out of the house with a false accusation, but then still said that to him as the D was being finalized.
They always want you there for a Plan B. If they can guilt you into being there waiting ("We wouldn't have this problem if you hadn't -fill in the blank_!") then they will. You are known quantity. When the rest of their world falls down around them (and it will eventually) they think they can always go back to you to pick up the pieces.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
