No MC after the first, I know that was a big problem. I no longer do anything for her in regards to the house and she is showing frustration. I want her to see what independence really looks like. I do maintain alot of the duties that are directed to my 14 year old who sees that his mother has been an absentee mom for 3+ months now. He is my biggest concern as I work on myself as well.
She was close to rock bottom and I do expect a relapse but I am at the point of moving on and did not want to be in the MBR any longer. She showed a lot of remorse the first time and we did a lot of talking after the first A and we both agreed that we had gotten a lot better after it. If there was any chance this time of reconciling, intense MC and IC would be required before I would even consider but I think I have a way to go.
It was more or less just ending the A though which I now see never addressed any of her underlying issues why the A happened in the first place. I'm trying but I guess the experience will help me make the right decisions this time even though this one seems much worse.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
