I wish mtb was here. He has more experience with WWs that have substance abuse problems. Bottom line is that she has to hit rock bottom before she can improve.

However, I am not sure you are looking at your sitch objectively. I already see you making some excuses related to the advice given. The advice is free, and you can choose to ignore it. But be honest with yourself. Would getting respect be kicking her out of the MBR or moving yourself? You need to stop being Mr. Mom and let her start picking up some household responsibilities. She had an A 10 years ago and here you are right back to the same point again, which means likely the root case wasn't dealt with properly. You seem to blame it all on her substance abuse problems but substance abuse and As are usually symptoms of bigger problems.

Did you guys do MC after the first A? Did you make her do any work to come back to the MR? Or was it just a wide-opened door with the only stipulation being that the A ended?

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M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018