Quote: Here is something to ponder. Following a suggestion from Honeypot I encountered on this board, last night I asked my husband "In an ideal world, how many times a week would you have sex?" He replied that he thought about twice a week was right! I absolutely have no memory of the last time we had sex twice in the same week. I have to assume that either his world is far, far from ideal or else doesn't include me.
Wow, that was an interesting dodge on his part - the thing about the genocide program. That's original, at least. One thing the PM book points out very well is how to use apparent inconsistencies in sexual desire as a window into useful and interesting information. Bear with me for a moment.
Your H is LD, right? In your mind, he lacks sexual desire. However, he just indicated to you that in an "ideal" world, he'd be ML twice a week! Yet, you have no memory of any such week. Okay, good enough. How about exploring why? Not from YOUR point of view, but from HIS. By that, what I mean is, I think you need to have a conversation with him where you are pointing out this inconsistency, and challenging him to explain it... to himself if nothing else. In other words, I'm not sure he's really noticed the inconsistency himself. He may be at a loss, initially, to explain it even to himself. But the reasons behind it will probably be interesting to both of you, and may lead in unexpected directions. The key is in being able to trust enough to go with the flow.
