My Story

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I wanted to move out, I have a full bedroom/bath in the basement. I had done this in the past and it always pulled her back but I would cave and go back to our bed and she would just go back to her same routine.

I'm done sleeping with her, and the AP got wind that she was trying to work on our marriage and sleeping together and I think he is upping his game by telling her she needs to stay away from me. Ironic right, the AP doesn't want my wife sleeping with me. She always says how independent she is and no one can tell her what to do. I thought for a while this would rekindle a bond, but have realized her drinking and and drug use has her all over the place.

She has taken no steps in repairing the marriage at this point other than spending more time with me.

At this point I am 100% detaching from her while the affair is continuing. I was trying to make things work without pushing for the last two months but things have not changed much.

Like I said originally she is dealing with a lot of issues outside of our marriage and as far back as April can remember consistent drinking and drug use. As of yesterday she seems to be trying to dry out and get her life in order probably since the AP said she was a mess and needed to get her life together.

If she can hold off on not drinking and using, she will either realize that she has been acting a fool and look to repair our marriage or that she truly wants to be with the AP, who BTW has no intentions to leave his wife. My guess is she can hold off for a week or two and will be back on the sauce because of the issues that have been haunting her for a good part of her life.

H 49
W 47
BD 5/10/2018

Married 17 years
Together 18 years