The bomb woke me up, but she won't talk

[lusa]

Nothing has changed Hong, so not really anything to post.
As Steve said "Limbo is the gift of time".

The spewing seems to have stopped for now, although if either of the kids are upset for any reason she makes vague references to it being my fault that they are are confused as "I've moved back in without anything changing between us", I just ignore it.

I'm not particularly happy with the dynamic, especially sleeping on the couch, but I don't expect anything to change soon. Just working on being the best man I can be for me and the kids. I do seem to be doing much better at detaching, I think it has become even more important during this in-house seperation.

As you are aware I had to move back for financial reasons, I don't think it was necessarily the best thing for my chances of R. It's definitely impossible for her to miss me when I am there all the time and I am still allowing her to cake-eat.

My desperation to R has slowly changed over-time into an acceptance of what will be, which is a relief. It's enough to be working on being the best I can be and remembering that I can't control others.

I wish I could help advise you or post on others threads, but I still feel I am not wise enough to do that yet.