Thanks DNJ, Westo, Job, Gerda Roist and Gordie. Much appreciated.
Last week I emailed ex about something to do with kids. I received a quintessential non sequitur MLC response back. He told me he's been trying to save me from myself since January (which is when he moved out and filed), that he has no idea what I am doing (he's still VERY upset that I have my own lawyer), that I ruined the friendship between us and then he told me I'll have a lot of explaining to do to the kids someday. He is very upset over legal fees. And yes, it's pricey--mostly because he's unreasonable. But he filed and then refused to be reasonable/follow basic processes.
I didn't answer.
I saw him at s 13's orientation and felt so comfortable being in the same orbit; more so that I have in years. All that he wrote to me in that crazy letter is fading at long last. I felt an old confidence returning. One of the things he'd told me is that I had let myself become middle aged and I was too intelligent?!?! I walked by him and really understood that it's him, his issues, his hang ups, his misery. It felt good to be so distant from it all.
I am still playing tennis and I just picked up pickle ball; quite fun! I am having a love affair with life.
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
