Ive been embracing letting go. Thats the plan going forward.
The W was around the house for a bit and somehow managed to ask a question about me and things that i did in the relationship in the past. Something relatively insignificant that probably happened 16-17 years ago(think having an attitude etc). It seems that she still likes to bring up things that she was hurt by or held resentment about throughout the years, some bigger than others. I did a good job of keeping answers short for the most part and validated her feelings. It really takes a concentrated efgort but im getting better.
What do WW's get out of it, does it fuel their justification? Does it make them feel better about themselves? Do they really want to talk rationally about it(obviously not, and i wont go there either anymore)? Why do they want to bring up those questions when they dont want R anymore? I need Sandi here for that one!
I become more bitter as each and every day goes by. Meaning that im upset by what she did obviously, but im becoming more and more disgusted by her actions and remorse. I just dont get it at all. Ill visit my ic again soon so i can continue dealing with these feelings.
Last edited by equalzr; 08/21/1802:06 AM.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
