Thanks Neffer and Ginger . We'll get through it... it's been a wild three+ years! Jeeesh... but it flew by!
So I was thinking a bit about the dating situation. Reading down here in the forum is so interesting... seeing the different paths people take with dating etc. Anyway, I was thinking about myself and realized a few things. First, my dating experience has been rather limited. XW and I were neighbors, we grew up together, I knew her since I was 11 or 12 and we were high school sweet hearts. There was no 'dating' there... it just happened. We were on and off for 20 or so years. During that time, she dated but I did not really. I had some girls who I guess I dated. So I definitely have no idea what I am doing now adays. But I guess J9 didn't either... hmph! But I do think when I meet the right person, it will flow naturally.
The second thing I thought about was this. I thought about every girl I have ever 'dated' or even hung out with over the years. Every single one, including XW, all were heavy pursuers. All of them. I have never pursued anyone, with much effort anyway. Even the few dates I have had the past year were because they kept asking and pressuring otherwise I would have never asked them. I found that interesting and am not sure what exactly that means. That's probably something that has to change.
The final thing is the sex issue. Of course my friends think I should be 'sleeping with anything that moves' but that's not my style (obviously see above) and I'm OK with that. I want to of course but I can wait. I think if I were to sleep with someone early on, that would actually mean that I had no interest in a relationship with them. Just thought that was interesting too reading some stories down here.
ahh who knows. I think it'll be a good year though. This is about a year since I decided it was time to file the papers so hopefully I am in a good frame of mind for a relationship. I think the next one will be good. I should have given up on XW loonnng before she became Mrs Pinn.
