Need Guidance moving from new comer to MLC,

[marina7]

Journaling,

What a busy day. S10,d10 are 5th grader and s9 4th grader.
Another year W missed out on amazing kids.

Well called s10 we talk and laugh. Of course siblings talk with s10
They are laughing while talking s9 says can we talk to mom
W gets on like nothing. Conversation I hear because I am in the kitchen I try to not pay attention but conversation
went something like this.

S9 is mom there
S10 yeah wanna say hi
S9 yes
D10 quite
W hey guys who is this
D10 ummm your daughter
S9 your son
W hey how was your day.
S9 good first day of school
W I know your teacher name starts with a Ke...
S9 No starts with G....
W oh I must of confused it with d10
D10 ummm no mine starts with S
W well anyways remember get better grades than last year
D10 I was an honor all year highest honor for the whole school.
W well try to get better grades
D10 didn't you hear me. I was honor roles
W yes then get better be better listen sit in the front blah blah.
D10 breaks down crying Why Why is nothing good enough and runs to room
S9 hangs up
M what's going on
S9 mom nothing we do is good enough
W calls back Hello
M hello,
W what happen
M you tell me
W I just said get better grades
M W our d was honor roles our d trying so hard to please you just encourage her
W Put d on phone
M I sit phone down and told D listen to mom what she gotta say
W you misunderstood me. I said get better grades and you didn't have to cry
D I am trying I can't get better than A....
W you didn't have to cry
D I do have feelings you hurt my feelings why do you act this way. I am sorry I don't wanna talk with you now. I love you by mom. Hangs up.
D runs to me and just hugs me tight and crying
M I am sorry you all have to go through this, but remember you make me so so proud I have 3 amazing kids. So remember nothing you do. Mommy just needs to figure things out.
D it hurts so bad
M I know I am here.
Lots of hugs and kisses

Now this was interesting W was never good enough for MIL W is 38 and still trying to
Please MIL. Her conversation with D I bet it was same with W mom. Smh

Taking a walk sometimes I feel sad for W but when W hurts my kids I can't see W past.