overrnbw, thanks for the input. She indeed becomes very selfish since the BD, which is completely out of her character. But it's more like she can't control herself. She just gets easily irritated nowadays. But I know for sure she loves our son deeply.
The move will be to a different country. That means she will have to see our son once a year at most if she doesn't join us. (her goal of all this is to be one her own. so she didn't plan to have S4 if we eventually got to D.) She thought things will be nice and easy, life will be more or less the same for except without me anymore. But it won't be the case if we move. Maybe this is the sort of reality check she needs.
H: 31 W:31 M: 6 T: 10 S: 4 BD: 12/2017 In house separation: 12/2017