WLF, I would like to add that it sounds destine that you will have contact during this basement cleaning. I hope you will be intentional and guard your heart.
What do you wish to covey? I would suggest that with limited words and that you would project that you are doing well. Moving on. Not pursuing. Validating is allowing W to be heard without judgment. Armor up to hear things that you disagree with. Now is not the time.
If you are asked a question that you feel you can't answer without judgment, ask for some time to think about it. This is no time to win any battles.
Limited contact makes these occasions tense and important. Better to say nothing, than the wrong thing. Listen and validate. Swallow that pride. Know that she may say things to try to hurt you. Because she too is hurting. Don't take the bait.
I look forward to your report.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
