The exchanges i had with EX this weekend were calm and communicative. I was able to establish the date of the hair appointment. We talked (not in detail) about S3's progress with potty. My answers were short but polite. "Yes, thanks" and so on. EXWife still seems to be putting some extra "niceness" on things, but i wont question that. Even if insincere, its far preferable to the alternative.
Here are some thoughts i had.
NPD people mirror others, thereby i have extended the period of animosity by "poking the bear". If i am confrontational, she will she be. The more i take the high road, the more often she will attempt to join me there.
What happened to me, was inevitable. She has done it to every relationship, both romantic and platonic. I am just glad she did it in less than 5 years than waiting 15 or 20, as it would have happened regardless.
One big thing i noticed is the difference between advice i get here, and advice i get from family/friends IRL that actually know EXWIFE. Here i get a lot more "Benefit of the doubt" type advice, whereas most of my close relations IRL give much more "Aggressive" advice, as they have seen how she is in real life, as well as how much she has done to others in the past. That has been a difficult duality to work with.
She is really starting to feel like a ghost to me. A myth. I tried earlier to formulate a picture of her in my head, and i cant really do it anymore. I avoid photos and videos so i havent truly looked at her face in ages, it is fading from my memory, obviously not permanently, but the details are fading.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
