Quote: Yikes! This would not work. Not an area she would want to talk about or discuss. Surely this is part of our problem, but I really don't know how to surmount it. And even if it WAS the case, what then? She is very protective and defensive and I know what subjects are taboo. What can I say?
If you can't even talk about it, you'll never get anywhere. Maybe a C is what you two need. I found it easier to talk in front of a C and say things to my W I couldn't bring myself to say. Once I got into the habit of doing it, it became somewhat easier, but I still sometimes (most of the time) fear confronting her with sex-related issues. Just have to bite the bullet and do it. It's part of regaining my self-confidence. Sounds like you may need to work on that, too. What's she going to do, divorce you for wanting to talk about it? I doubt she would. You have to trust that she loves you enough to get past the anger that she feels that you are bringing up a sensitive subject, and will eventually be okay with talking about it with you.
