I have tried doing casual touches and he doesn’t flinch but doesn’t reciprocate either - but tbh we were never a very tactile couple. He has starting teasing me again - but doesn’t like it so much if I do it back to him! We’ve also started an exercise class and go together - never done that before!
Changes he’s made - doing jobs around the house (previously did not do much at all) e.g fixing the shower room. not disappearing overnight. Being there for the kids, I no longer feel like a single parent - he comes to school meetings, helps with homework etc.. Getting a new job as he wasn’t happy. Negatives are that he hasn’t sorted any counselling when he said to me in February he would.
We both have a week of work (with the kids) in a weeks time so this will be a telling week. He is talking about having family days out (rather than go away as money is tight). He chose to take this week off at the same time as me - he could have chosen another week.
Some girl friends are saying that I deserve better, this situation isn’t good, my needs are not being met and that the children must be confused. All true but this is 8 months so far out of nearly 17 years. He has clearly had issues with his mental health (due to military service). I just don’t know how to move it onto the next stage and maybe he is happy how things are and he is happy with the current situation.
M: 17 T:17 Me:42 H:48 BD 23/12/2017 H says ‘I don’t want to be married’ D 17 D 15, D 13, S 10, S 10
