NMB - I've wondered this about myself, too. Even though I didn't lose my virginity until college, it wasn't for lack of WISHING I could do it earlier. I was just so painfully shy in high school (and went to a VERY small school) that it was nearly impossible for me to get to that point with a boy. There was one guy I ended up doing some heavy petting with during my senior year, and I even went and bought condoms but he didn't want to go that far. (He later told me he felt like a fool for doing that!)
In college I lost my virginity within a week of getting there. Although the first few times were painful, I came to really enjoy sex and me and my BF had a very active sex life. (Ah...memories!) We did it just about anywhere and everywhere. We were together 3 years (during which time we broke up briefly and I had a fling with the aforementioned high school guy) until I transferred to another school. After one short fling, I immediately got involved with another HD guy, and we dated about 3 more years. Then a couple more BF's, all HD, and I married my first H who was also HD. As his alcoholism took hold, though, the sex became all about him and more boring for me.
When I met H, he was like your cheerleader friend. He acted like he was very HD. We had "dry" sex (with our clothes one) but he insisted he didn't want to really ML with me until after my D from H#1 was final. Then he put it off for another week or so after that and when we finally did do it, well, it wasn't rockets going off. Things got better, though, even though it was always me initiating. I was able to O easily with him and I liked that.
After we got married, though, is when things started to go downhill. The walls went up, the excuses started, we went to counseling. Sigh.
(Sorry to hijack your thread...this just got me thinking about my HD history!)
