So it is now 8 months since bomb drop.....he’s still sleeping downstairs, no physical affection between us at all. Otherwise everything is more ‘normal’ family stuff. He has started a new job - set hours and is home at a reasonable time (previously he worked odd hours and wasn’t home until late. He talks about ‘us’ and ‘we’ in conversations. He hasn’t disappeared off for the night in I can’t remember how long. We have had no R talk, neither of us has initiated. I am really confused as to if and when I should start a conversation.

I hate confrontation and this status quo has been useful to bring calm to the situation, but I know this can’t continue forever - I need more and I deserve more. I have recently come off my antidepressants and I think this is why I am feeling less calm about the situation. How do I make the next step forward or is it about waiting for him?

Bd - 23 Dec 2017
Me 41 H 48
D 16, D 15, D 12, twin boys 10
Married 16 years

Last edited by Helhel; 08/18/18 10:54 PM.
M: 17 T:17 Me:42 H:48
BD 23/12/2017 H says ‘I don’t want to be married’
D 17 D 15, D 13, S 10, S 10