you say you can't look him in the eyes anymore. Is that because you're just too hurt or angry and you know you'll lose it if you do? If so, I know how you feel. I am the same way.
I think where you are going with everything is the right thing to do, plan your life without him. Move on. It sounds like your H doesn't know what in the hell he wants. Maybe he figures it out, maybe not.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.