My advice for you, and this is speaking from personal experience, is to try to remain calm and become strong inside. What do you think "worked" the first time? List some of those things out here so that you can start to remember, and then "do what works".
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.