The enemies thing is manipulation. As you detach she is feeling a loss of control and she doesn't like it. That's why when you started discussing R she fell back to the "I dont trust you stance. " Classic pursuit distance dynamic.
Keep doing what you've been doing.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018