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[Jim1234]

Well, we're pretty close to reaching a settlement agreement. We agree in principal, and even mostly on the numbers. There were some tax considerations the mediator didn't include in the numbers. I brought it up, and W agreed with everything I said. The mediator asked if I would adjust the numbers to reflect the tax considerations, and I said sure. Not quite sure what I'm paying her for, but at least this way, I get to make sure the numbers are right.

We're supposed to be taking S18 to college in two weeks. 12 hour drive each way, with at least one hotel stay. I am kind of dreading it. Yes, it will give us a chance to talk, but what are we going to talk about? I doubt she has had an epiphany, and, short of that, nothing in our sitch has changed.

The good news is that I am beginning to detach, finally. When I find myself pining for her, I remember all the ways she wasn't really a good wife, and it helps.