My wife said the same thing after about the 5.5 month post BD. She saw the changes, but she needed to see who this new person was. She essentially used it as an excuse to leave, as she said I wasn’t the same person she married, even though I changed into who she wanted me to be.
No sitch is the same. I just caution you to continue on the path of DBing and to not let her comments impact your emotions. If she is coming around to who you are now, great. But what hit me in my sitch was the initial struggle with the BD, followed by what I thought was a change of heart in my W which led to hope. Not long after she had reversed course, and because I hadn’t truly detached, it honestly but me harder than the BD.
