I have followed your situation and haven't commented much. Have you read the Last Resort Technique? This is what you should be implementing right now. If you have patience and can exude strength through this until she is out, I can almost guarantee you will get a shot at reconciliation.
The harder you try to hold on the longer it is going to take. Your W is going to get a slap in the face with reality when you are gone.
Can you drop the rope?
Just don't be surprised that when she comes crawling back you have completely moved on.
