DB / Detach, WAW... piecing

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This was on an initial call I had months ago before getting on the forum. Talking about me pressuring her to reconcile and be in the marriage felt like a prison to her. Since she wanted to get out of it. A lot of the talk was about pursuit and pressure. But she definitely said that if I couldnt be her friend first I would never get to be her husband. W and I couldnt even get along at this point she was with OM1 HS ex trashy bankrupt affair down etc.... I dont know but I am going to do my best to follow the advice here. She definitely has shown interest when I pull away. And when I show interest in return and expect her to be excited or happy she goes cold. So no interest from me until / unless she is pouring it on wanting to work on marriage, sexually intimate lover etc. I kind of feel it will never happen but me pulling away and not being interested is the best chance I have.