Well think of it like this. Right now WAW is really MY plan B. I'm seeing other ladies and having fun doing so. And let's face it...it is pretty obvious that R is not going to ever happen so for now I am entertaining her efforts to communicate solely so I have an in to push for a date...or maybe even a couple dates. If she wants to spend time with me it's going to be on my terms only. If she can't live up to that then she's going to have to accept that casual texts here and there is all she's getting. If she wants to see me bad enough...then she can go on a date with me...she had no other options at this point. It's put up or shut up time for her. Maybe I should say "put out" there LOL!
OK, I get that and I think that's a good place to be. We don't really see the whole picture of your life and interactions here, so we're just responding to what we do see which is "XW texted this and I texted that" so basically we just see the interactions between you two as the entire picture rather than it just being part of a bigger picture.
Sandi just posted this in Did's thread and it's good food for thought:
Originally Posted by sandi2
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W says. We haven't been together for over a year. I'd like to try to slowly be friends and see how that goes.
WARNING! WARNING! WARNING! Trap ahead!
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But you want me to like commit to something and that is never going to happen because it's just not smart or healthy. We don't even know each other anymore. I'd like to get to know you, trust would be a very slow thing for me. But I don't think you would be ok w my speed
Read these words carefully. She is talking about having you only as a friend..….not a lover, and not a husband.
Men and women see being "friends" differently after they separate. Men think they can win her back if he's her friend. But let me tell you what "friend" means in girl code...…..no sexual attraction. She'll use you when she has nobody else....and expect you to hop the minute you hear that phone ping. This is the perfect opportunity for you to go dark on her. Stop playing BFF and have the b@lls to stop responding to her text messages. She is simply using you b/c she's bored and doesn't have anyone else to pester every few minutes with her texting addiction.
If you'll tell her you aren't interested in signing up for the buddy club, and stop interacting with her, you just might be able to get her back. But first, you have to jumpstart her sexual attraction, and you do that by dumping her!
